#my sister helping

[dreamerwriternstargazer]

Can’t decide if I hate myself or not for sleeping in

[notherpuppet]

Morning After

Part 2/4

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[heritageposts]

I'm writing again to bring attention to the GFM campaign of @salahahmed90 (Salah) and @salahmanarfamily (Manar), the parents of two young children in Gaza.

Here's an updated Salah posted last night, after he and his family were displaced for the sixth time:

Please help us, we are being subjected to genocide in Gaza. Hours ago, a house was bombed next to the place where we are and escaped death miraculously. Help us get out of Gaza in order to preserve our children.

Though Salah and Manar started out with the hopes of rebuilding, they've now made the difficult choice to begin saving up for an evacuation. Their campaign, however, is still very low on funds, and its been stagnating completely for the last few days, leaving them with barely enough for their immediate survival.

-> GFM link

The campaign has been verified by @/90-ghost.

If you can, please consider donating. Even a small contribution can make a big difference for the family.

Currently: €3,650 / €70,000

[bkyngw]

don't forget about him

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[bixels]

The Piedra sisters.

Born and raised in a small mining town in New Mexico. Calida and María Molina have stayed behind to support their parents while Rosita and Madelina have gone off to pursue their dreams. Madelina recently obtained her Ph.D. in geology from Las Cruces College. Rosita works as a baking apprentice and entertainer in Ponyville, Nebraska. Madelina is the eldest, Calida the middle child, and Rosita and María Molina (non-identical) twins.

[chloesimaginationthings]

Vanny has a FNAF game question for Michael..

[regonold]

Danny gets deaged and heads to Gotham to find jazz at collage there's only one problem he knows where the collage is just now where jazz's class is

Enter one bruce wayne who genuinely just so happened to be there (he's pulling a brucie wayme stunt) seeing a small kid looking around worried so what does the serial adopter do? Well he goes up to the kid of course crouching down to ask if he's ok whats his name wheres his parents or siblings?

Now jazz, jazz all but raised danny she protected him from a young age and helped him with anything he needed and durimg her time at collage she had worried for him, with the amount of bull her parents spouted she wouldn't be surprised if danny up and left

So imagine her surprise when she spotted her baby brother de aged talking to some stranger and at that moment every instinct flared and she remembered every warning she read or heard about Gotham and she acted

Danny was just looking for his sister when some guy crouched down to talk with him after asking some questions danny heard a sound he was familiar with jazz running

Bruce really wasn't expecting to be kicked for trying to help a kid

Artistic representation of jazz kicking bruce\/

[james-spooky]

not even the magnus protocol is safe from youtuber drama 😭🙏

[soosoosoup]

treasure planet au, last of the batch (Poppy & Floyd)

[peachebo]

ya all really liked my previous post about happyending!au for sl so here is another ennard with da cat!!

ghosts tend to attract cats really well...

[okartichoke]

Turnabout Sisters played poorly on stakes in tears of the kingdom

[pocketgalaxies]

keyleth, wine drunk at 3am:

[fairycosmos]

it’s just fucking insane to exist as a person now like everyone is mean and cruel and traumatised and everything costs way more than it did even a decade ago and there is no way to self actualise and the world is on fire and people are dying needlessly all the time and the rich keep getting richer and the air is different than it was pre pandemic and i am sick of being advertised to and i don’t think this is how any of it is supposed to be

[gryffindraws]

digital painting of That Sister Daniel picture from the liveshow

[hamza-gaza]

🖐🏻🖐🏻🖐🏻📢📢📍Looooook they are burning in the tent ⛺💔💔😭😭

📍Dear friends and compassionate souls🛑❤️‍🩹🍉

My name is hamza and the voice of my family, and I am reaching out to you during one of the most challenging times in my life. My family and I are currently living in Gaza, and the situation here has become increasingly dire. With winter approaching and the threat of further conflict looming, we find ourselves in urgent need of assistance to evacuate and find safety.

And today i will show you pictures before the war and after the war .

Please donate to us we are civilians and we want to live👉🏻. https://gofund.me/abf54bf1

We are a family of 7 , including my elderly parents and young children. The stress of our current living conditions—struggling to find shelter and basic necessities—is overwhelming. Every small donation can make a tremendous difference, providing us with the means to escape this situation and start anew.

💔💔 **Help Save My Little Sister** 💔💔

Dear friends and kind-hearted souls,❤️🤍

I am reaching out with a heavy heart to share the struggles of my little sister, who is bravely battling Mediterranean fever. This chronic illness has taken a tremendous toll on her young life, and the absence of necessary medicine makes each day a fight against overwhelming pain. 😢💔

She deserves a chance to live without fear of the next attack, to laugh and play like any child should. But without the right treatment, her health continues to decline, leaving our family feeling helpless and desperate. 😭💔

Every bit of support, whether emotional or financial, means the world to us. Your kindness can help us find the resources she desperately needs to manage her condition. Together, we can give her hope and the chance to enjoy life again. 🌈💪

Please 🥺 share our story, offer your prayers, or anything else you can do to help. Your compassion can make a difference in her life! 🙏💖

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 click here

Your generosity can bring hope and warmth❤️‍🩹 to our lives during this challenging time. Please consider supporting us in any way you can🙏🏻, whether through a donation 🙏🏻🙏🏻or by sharing our campaign with others.🔗📌📢

From the bottom of our 🥰💕, thank you for your compassion and support.❤️‍🩹📍

Hamza and my family

https://gofund.me/abf54bf1

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